Whether it is holding a baby for a stranger on the subway or having a coworker borrow something from your desk without asking, we’ve all been in situations where setting boundaries could have saved us a lot of stress.
While not everyone can be a pro at assertiveness, part of having a healthy sexual life is feeling satisfied with all of your interactions; before, during, and after sex. To reach this point, open and effective communication is vital. You need to be able to sit down with your partner and have a honest conversation.
When discussing boundaries with a partner, it's important to be clear and direct about what you are and aren't comfortable with. It’s also key to listen to them and respect their boundaries. This isn’t just a one-way conversation. Remember that your goal is to have a productive conversation where everyone can feel comfortable. Here are some guidelines you can follow:
It's important to remember that areas of comfort aren’t static and can evolve. It's also perfectly normal to have different boundaries with different partners. The most important thing is that you communicate openly to ensure that you both feel safe and respected.